Thinking Back Tuesdays Story #5 FixThePlus

Continued from last Tuesday...

Little did I know my future husband's brother & sister-in-law lived right down the block where my family lived. Then the “black people” as my mother called them and “beaners” (I didn't agree to either term) as everyone called them started moving into the Dream Homes. 

By this time, I had a little brother but he was still a baby. The Doctor had made a mistake cutting his forehead during his C-Section which really pissed big sister off!

I am having an epiphany writing this. I am reading a book that was given to me and came across a paragraph that pretty much described what I couldn't really put into words but knew it was there all along. It says the following:

“There were times, like today, when she realized that after a youth of skating along slippery surfaces, she had now settled into a domestic rut of dazzling sameness, each day forced to perform the same show with the same players, just each player one day older. She wondered why it had to be this way, why are we forced to choose one life. Why do we insist that there can only be one “us”, one life that makes us up in our entirety? Why can't we have more than one identity? And why do we have to destroy one life in order to create another? We claim to long for the “well-rounded,” the Renaissance man or woman inside all of us, yet our only variety is cosmetic. In reality, we do all we can to smother that spirit out, to make us conform, to define us as one thing and one thing only.”

Looking back I have had many lives in this same life. When I had my own children I used what had happened to try and protect them and it never seemed enough knowing what was really out there.

It's funny sometimes the bits and pieces that come back as memories so long ago. So I pretty much made it through Elementary School where the 6th-grade girls were all into wearing training bras and I wasn't allowed a bra. 

Between the peer pressure of wearing a bra, saddle shoes and nylon ankle socks not to mention plain dresses that looked like I was in a Catholic School I got very creative at breaking and wrecking these things I hated. Which when I became a mother it was very important to me for my children to feel comfortable in clothes they liked not hated, which lucky for them I liked their clothing choices as well. 

That went for hair also. My son started liking a shaved head , my daughter wanted short hair for a long time.I think my mother thought of me like a Barbie Doll only Barbie was way hipper than I was!

My absolute happiest memories are when I was 15 years old going to the pool every day if possible. My High School's pool was open all summer so that’s where I spent my summer days swimming, tanning, and acting oh so nonchalant around the boys. I would hop on my bike and spend the day carefree under the blue Californian sun and the crystal clear blue water of the swimming pool.

Junior High went a little bit better for I got better at telling lies and finally taking more control over who I was. Before you get the wrong ideas let me explain...

To be continued next Tuesday...

7 Tips For How to live by the Golden Rule Hoping Others Will Follow Your Lead

The Golden Rule:
"One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself".

Matthew 7:12 English Standard Version (ESV)

The Golden Rule:
12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.


Wicca Rede
“An’ it harm no one, do what thou wilt” (i.e. do what ever you want to,
as long as it harms nobody, including yourself).

Boy Scouts Motto
'A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful,

thrifty, brave, clean and reverent'.

Being understood,loved and accepted builds trust. Trust builds loyalty and a genuine fondness even love can be built from something as simple as The Golden Rule.
I remember when 'pay it forward' was popular especially at our highway's toll booths. Now a days it's hard enough to pay your own way much less someone else's but it's a lovely thought.

Then you see the videos of a person giving a homeless person the shirt right off his back, sometimes shoes, food, money, or all of these things at once. Lottery time for that homeless guy! I myself have been homeless living off the streets where two homeless people, one a man, one a woman, I befriended, they befriended me helping me to survive the streets. But that's another story for another time.

I don't have a magical number that I use when I give chances forgiving someone for some err in their ways. I do know that once that proverbial straw that broke the camels back' kicks in I'm all done and simply move on.

I am by nature an empath. Empaths are highly sensitive, finely tuned instruments when it comes to emotions. They feel everything, sometimes to an extreme, and are less apt to intellectualize feelings. Intuition is the filter through which they experience the world. Empaths are naturally giving, spiritually attuned, and good listeners. I didn't really understand until I met a couple of people who recognized it in me teaching me how to shield harmful negativity. Think twice if using the phrase, "She's/He's so sensitive. You may be dealing with an Empath who may or may not know what they are.

So what do we do you may or not be asking yourselves. Here are some rules that I follow having to remind myself especially when I get miffed or feel like I'm being attacked.

1. Be courteous- My husband and I have been together around eleven years and we still say please and thanks or thank-you.

2. Be thoughtful- Example being in a checkout line with three or more tasks you have to do and letting the lady with the one item go ahead of you.

3. Invoke trust- If you promise not to tell anyone the secret you hold, THEN DON'T TELL IT. Very important as far as trust issues are concerned.

4. Be helpful- There are all kinds of ways to be helpful. You go to take out your trash seeing your neighbor's trashcan rolling around in the wind, picking it up. They won't know you did it but an act of kindness never goes unnoticed.

5. Be patient- You never know what the inner workings of someone who is a tad grouchy what is going on inside of them. Getting angry at a person or situation may have to do with something else entirely, you never know.

6. Don't assume- Just ask. You may or may not get the answer you like or wanted but at least it's out in the open making the question easier to deal with.

7. Laugh- Laughter is the best medicine as the old saying goes. Make a joke, watch your favorite sitcom, listen to your favorite music, eat some dark chocolate (that's mine).

What do you think can be added to the Golden Rule?

100 Exquisite Adjectives by Mark Nichol

I love learning new words or being reintroduced to one. I ran across a list of them and will add a word a day.

Word#49 Jocular: jesting, playful

In a sentence: I love when my co-workers are jocular!

How To Deal With A Senior Moment #FixThePlus *

If you read yesterday's post you will of remembered my post about lost stuff and where does it go?

Totally baffled I was.

And spent about 20 mins. looking around poking into where ever I thought I may have put these brightly colored plastic popsicle sticks!

Even asked my husband...

Sooooo this morning as I'm waking up I'm seeing in my mind's eye the bag of homemade smoothie cycles with all those shiny brightly colored sticks stuck in them nestled in my freezer door.

 Hurray! I found them!

Right, where they were supposed to be.

All I can say is ~wow~ and the fact now I'm aware that my husband would like fudge cycles!

Once again a good chuckle on me.

Then I remembered the time I left toilet paper in the freezer, keys, lost a couple of gas caps and that favorite leaving the drink on top of your car and driving away while a fellow motorist is frantically trying to wave you down!

You don't have to be a senior to have a senior moment, but it sure does help.

What's the wackiest senior moment you ever had?

Time Of My Life #FixThePlus *

I have been reading up on the net basically how to build a nice blog. I feel like I'm all over the place and I need to focus on one subject at a time but what subjects?

I know deep down I want to use my experiences and adventures to help others that run across my blog and know you are not alone and using myself to show that despite life dragging you along like a fast moving river, you can survive it.

My blog will be like my life has been. Trial and error, plus a whole lot of reading and reflection. I got this quote out of a novel I read,

“Writing is a wonderful and terrible thing. It opens deep wells of memories that were previously capped”.

I had the hardest time going backward and reliving the worse parts of my life. But the more I write and reflect, the better I'm dealing with it. I think the hardest emotion I had to deal with was feeling guilty.

 Going to bed and emotionally flogging myself for "bad" choices sending myself into deep despair and depression. I would lay there and think about the "what ifs" and if it would have changed anything at all?

I watch a lot of television or rather I have the Internet and watch my shows and movies on my laptop. The shows I like fuels my imagination. One concept from the Si-Fi shows is parallel worlds.

I would try and imagine where I would have ended up taking another road than the one I took. But then again I've always been a dreamer which got me in a lot of troubles when I was in school. I must be part angel cos I'm always sitting on a cloud.

So now I know what I'm going to do as far as my blogging. My journey may of had speed bumps and wrong turns but one thing I am sure about is my inner core. I'd rather do good rather than evil although you get on my wrong side there's no telling what will happen! Funny thing. There was no right thing or wrong thing only my thing and the person I am today.

How do you enjoy your life?

Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)

Song by Green Day

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road

Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go

So make the best of this test and don't ask why

It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable but in the end is right

I hope you had the time of your life

So take the photographs and still frames in your mind

Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time

Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial

For what it's worth, it was worth all the while

It's something unpredictable but in the end is right

I hope you had the time of your life

Come With Me To Walmart #FixThePlus *

Walmart shopping. Me, Chuck, Mother Bonnie and Jack went to New Hampshire's Walmart.

It was the same feeling as driving up to Disneyland it had been so long since the last visit! Isn't that sad.

We order a lot through the mail you see which I really like since neither one of us can stand for a long time.

I even befriended this young pregnant woman who is due this month!
Told her about my daughter-In-Law who is due in September and wished her happiness.

Chuck got his new shoes and a package of black t- shirts which I'm going to practice my new found craft, Shibori.

I got some royal blue Rid dye for my shockingly white cotton dress and will show both off when I'm done.

And last but not least new nose rings. I'm telling you.


Having a nose ring is bad as having earrings as far as the keeping them in their holes!

I got more supplies for green smoothies which I will start freezing tomorrow.

I almost forgot...Jack bought me a new purse which I absolutely love.

The zipper on my $4.oo Salvation Army purse is starting to act up so when I got to my seat I saw the purse and Jack is saying,

"Happy 4th of July, Happy Birthday, Merry Christmas" which cracked me right up.

Thanks Jack for being so thoughtful!

All in all a fantastic day! Where do you like to shop?